I spent 20 years in education and eight years coaching leaders, and I've lived my own share of second-guessing and people-pleasing too. I've had the whole hard conversation perfectly on the drive home, then shown up and smiled and nodded instead. I interviewed dozens of women while researching this book, and the same lines kept surfacing: "It's not my place." "I'll speak up when the time is right." "I shouldn't have said it like that." The strategies in this book are the ones I use on myself, regularly, to catch second-guessing and people-pleasing before they win.